Sharing our lives with others (a coach or coaching group) can help gain perspective to look at things differently. To get a fresh view point to evaluate issues from different angles. Coaching can change the whole way one views things and approaches issues. A term that is maybe over used is
“reframing” for example take the tough economy, maybe you are thinking “I have to get out of debt”. That can become all consuming, even though you are thinking “I want to get out of debt” which is a good thing. It can actually be a negative; because it is focusing on something you don’t have so it is on the deficit not the strength. This is what I have; this is what I can pay. Focus on living your purpose and don’t let the distraction of deficit sink you into despair. Sharing your struggle with others, let them encourage you, help you gain energy and get validated. It helps you remember who you are and your struggle is not about you being a bad person, but rather about you doing what you can. Coaching helps you look at and discover options and then take steps to getting there.
Counseling is different from coaching because it identifies disorders and issues so you can find ground to begin healing. But what we love about coaching is; it is what you already know, is is what is in your heart. Having someone listen, really hear and validate what you know. Coaching helps you discover ways to get where you want to be. We get to listen like a best friend. Truly hear your hearts desire and validate who you are as a person. Suzette says when she has been coached the benefit has been that the coach can take two different aspects of a situation and weave them together to her make sense of it. Another thing we love about coaching is that it adds structure and action steps to your desires. As you move toward your goal we have activities that will help you get there. We encourage the “small steps” that seem so insignificant and yet pave the way step by step to your dream. It is like learning an instrument, you have to learn chords before you can play a song, or learn some theory to help you understand, all important parts of the process. Moving forward you don’t stay stuck. The big picture can be so overwhelming so we help you reduce it to the ridiculous, focus on the small steps, the do-able parts. Laurie says, she has learned struggling and obstacles is really a blessing. If we went from desire, to a dream fulfilled overnight, we would miss so much of the process that is valuable to the final goal. The steps and obstacles makes the dream more valuable. As you grow and learn then you can reach out and mentor others to do what you have done.
People know what they want, we (the coaches) are not here to give advice, our job is to help you know what you know and make a strategy and a plan,
Coaching will also challenge you, maybe a little “kick in the rear: so to speak to say lets go for it. Make a commitment to do what you need to do to get where you want to go and a little bit of accountability to help keep you on track.
That is what we love about coaching and why we are so excited to have a radio show. But until that time, keep listening to the audio blogs, posted each Monday on the website and sign up for conference coaching.